How to Be a Girl Boss

What is a ‘Girl Boss’? We very often hear the term on social media but do you really know what it takes to be one? Read on to find out what it is, as well as how to girlbossify your life and learn how to be a Girl Boss!

A GIRL BOSS is a woman in control of her own life. A woman who knows her worth and won’t accept any less. She is not a ‘mean girl’. In-fact, she hates ‘mean girls’. She is empowering and inspiring to those around her. She is a go-getter!

How To Be A Girl Boss

Girlbossify your life step 1:

Find something that you’re passionate about and that you’re good at! Don’t worry if you haven’t got everything figured out just yet. The strategy and business plan will come. It’s far more important to focus on a topic that you love and are good at, or at least are committed to getting better at.

“First comes passion then comes strategy!”

Think about what you’re good at… Makeup? Styling? Writing? Photography? And most importantly make sure it’s something that you love so that it doesn’t feel like ‘work’, because trust me, there’s going to be a whole lot of work involved.

Girlbossify your life step 2:

Your family & your friends will either rush to support you on your journey to becoming a Girl Boss, or they will tell you that you’re dreaming and that “It’s never going to work.” In order to take control of your life, you need to shut out all outside noise, most importantly negativity! This is not their journey, this is your journey. Do not let ANYBODY take YOUR dream away from you.

The people that try and stop you from achieving your dreams are usually the people that are secretly jealous and worried that you are going to be a big success. Do you really want these people in your life? People who are not only trying to stop you from achieving your dreams but who are also going to resent you if you do something that makes you happy? I’ve been told time and time again: “That will never work!” Or “I just don’t want you to get upset when you’ve wasted your time on this!” Because despite the fact that there isn’t a hater out there who is successful, financially free, happy or content with their work or own life, they rather comically think they know better. So why wouldn’t you listen to them when they say “You’ll never make any money from that!” Move aside Tony Robbins, there’s a new finance guru in town!

Girlbossify your life step 3:

There is a saying “Where you focus your attention is where the magic happens.” This is so true. It also means that you need to stop sweating the small stuff…and the people who don’t matter. Don’t get hung up over people who talk behind your back or a partner who doesn’t respect your goals and ambitions. While you definitely deserve a break and time off from working on your empire, if your Netflix binges are preventing you from working on your side hustle then you need to be strict with yourself and limit your leisure time to evenings or weekends.

People can equally be a distraction, especially if they fill you with negative energy. If making arrangements with someone fills you with dread then why bother? Don’t give yourself a headache trying to think up a decent excuse to get out of meeting up. Similarly, you are neither your friends’ nor boyfriend’s babysitter, cult member, psychologist, ATM, emotional or verbal punching bag! Surround yourself with the people that bring out the very best in you. Did you know that we, as individuals, are an average representation of the 5 people that we are closest to? My 5 are all successful, all positive, all GOAL-GETTERS and most of all, all supportive of my dreams. Are yours?

Girlbossify your life step 4: 

Be unique. This will look different for everyone. Some people are unique and special for all of the reasons why somebody else is loved for being relatable and adored for completely different qualities. What’s important is that you’re always your authentic self. Individually is interesting. Being the best is great, you’re number one. But being an individual is greater, YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE.

Girlbossify your life step 5: 

Stay committed and consistent in whatever it is that you’re doing. As soon as your eyes are off the prize you’re back to square one. You’re married to your work now, at least until you’re successful. Ok, so you’re not “married” in the way that you need to abandon your relationships and important people in your personal life. You do still need to think of it as a serious commitment though, otherwise it just won’t work out.

If you’re struggling to figure out how to balance your time between personal and work obligations then write a list. What are you going to prioritise in each area of your life? Time with your spouse and kids in the evenings at the weekends? Obviously that’s really important, so protect that time fiercely. Spontaneous coffee dates with random friends who think you’re always free now that you work from home? Or late night partying that leaves you hungover and tired for days? Maybe give these a miss.

Basically you need to ask yourself what’s more important to you? Being successful in 5 years time because you’ve stayed committed and worked hard for the past 5 years and being financially free with lots of free time to do whatever you want? Or spending the next 5 years going to a different club every weekend, while spending all week in a job you hate, wishing the time away and waiting for the weekend?

Do you really want to spend your life working on somebody else’s dream rather than your own? The chances are that it’s not just the next 5 years you have to think of either. You’ve probably got years ahead of working years ahead of you, so how are you going to spend them? Outline what YOU want in YOUR life. Take control of your destiny, and don’t let anybody or anything stand in your way.